How did you know you weren't the narc?
07.06.2025 04:01
Because the abuse ramped up when we came home. Because he insisted we rushed back 600 kms south home immediately upon landing, when I could have spent another week at my friend’s near the airport. Only to dump me upon arrival, leave all his dirty dishes in the sink, let me move his things for him in the new flat we rented before flying out. And he went to Barcelona, on his own vacation, alone. And he texted me the WHOLE TIME. Like he missed me or something. I have to admit I felt GUTTED.
Because he was an asshole who offered to buy me things but asked for his money back after we broke up, and took all my new clothes with him. Then he complained to his new supply I was controlling and playing Barbie with him. But Barbie liked her new rags, she took off with them.
Because he said to his new supply that I was a pervert and an exhibitionist, when DUH that was the whole point, to get a rush BECAUSE I don’t usually do that, and to do it on the other side of the world so no one but select friends would know I did it. Straight guys streak all the time, why can’t we gay guys do it ? Btw I could have just joined anyone on Grindr and go be naked on a beach with them, probably would have gotten sucked off too, but I stayed with my bro on a sexless vacay. In fucking Greece… And I never ever pointed that out to Little Cockblock.
Because I wasn’t the “straight” guy hitched to a gay man, he was. I was gay, what was his excuse for being with me if we were more than just friends and partners?
Because he projected onto me. He said I wanted to have sex with him since I was gay. I said I have sex with whoever I want whenever I want. I took out Grindr and got 4 taps within 1 minute. I did not need him for sex.
What a weird question.
What is the best case of “You just picked a fight with the wrong person” that you've witnessed?
Next, because HE WAS a narcissist.
Because the lies came from the other side, not from me. And he was caught red handed by 5 people who put two and two together when he decided to harass me and come to my place at night and make my phone ring non stop until I would come outside. Two people were on my side absolutely, one person called him out for being an absolute jerk coming to my place at night and calling a disturbance, and the fifth one was his fresh new supply who realised as we gave rebuke after rebuke that he was the problem.
Because at the taverna after the nude beach, by candlelight, speaking softly and flirtingly, he reverse-loved-bombed me asking me what he meant for me : boyfriend, friend ? And I enforced a boundary that I wasn’t going to fall for a straight guy, so we were just friends and not to read into my getting naked in front of him. There is nothing more narcissistic than someone coming out to you by saying “YOU love ME”.
If there is an abandoned house with no owner, can I live in it?
Because I did him favours, and he never returned them, and kept taking and taking and taking.
Because I’m not a narc, duh.
Because he pseudo-victimized himself. For instance, he said it was abusive for me to get naked in front of him, BUTT, I told him I was going to Greece on my own and he tagged along of his own volition, knowing that I wanted to do THAT at least once. I told him I wanted to go to a particular place, get a naked picture of my butt doing the Hussain Bolt stance on a rock to sent to a friend who did the same thing, and he said OK and he said that’s funny. And then once we were there he refused to go to a nude beach, so I said fine stay here, I’ll go. And he STILL tagged along. And he took the picture, and then he complained that I abused him by forcing him to see me naked… On a nude beach with dozens of naked people around 🤷🏻
Because he was angry when I was successful, when I ditch his BULLSHIT advice and did things my own way, and lost 10 kg in 3 weeks!!! And he was livid.
Because he sabotaged me, not the other way around. He was a nutritionist and I got fat from staying at home after Covid, and having moved to the other side of the country I couldn’t ride my bike to work everyday and didn’t have access to open water for my bi weekly swim, and I got allergic to some foods after covid, so I doubled my weight. He declined giving me advice. When he did, it was bad advice, like do a crash diet. And when I said can you elaborate he said just eat chicken breasts and vegetables, with a bit of oil. And when it didn’t work, he SHOUTED AT ME that I put too much oil, and he had said “a little”. But “a little” isn’t “how much”.
Because he future faked me, pressed me to buy a flat together, got hitched with me, and then broke things off abruptly for a girl he met 3 weeks after.
Because he screamed at me because I asked him to take my picture for a change.
Because I loved him like a brother, whereas he hated me.